I'm dead serious-what would be the most effective way to get your stubborn husband to go to the ER?
He's been in severe pain starting on St. Patrick's Day. The VA has been dicking him around. Today they called with the results of a CT scan indicating two 7mm kidney stones, one in his kidney and one in his ureter (I guess technically that's a ureteral stone).
My research shows that you can't p$#@! stones that big. That you either have to have it blasted with sound waves or you have to have surgery to remove it. If they do blast the stone they have to put you under light anesthesia because it's painful. It can cause bruising and the surrounding organs to become "tender". I also read that they won't try to blast them in the ureter because it can cause irreparable damage. If they do surgery and remove it from the ureter you have to get a stent so that the ureter doesn't heal to itself and helps to alleviate complications/discomfort from the swelling (caused by the surgery).
Four times now I've wanted to take him to the ER. He turns grayish green (not that pale yellowy green, $#@!ing GREEN). He gets sweaty, but he has the chills, he shakes uncontrollably, he can't get comfortable/be still, he can't stand up straight. It makes him throw up.
I can't stand to see him like that. We've had two serious fights about it-the first one I threatened to call an ambulance if he didn't let me take him in (he did, but only to a walk in clinic). He doesn't want to go to the ER because he wants to let his doctors figure it out(but they've screwed up so much already, and they told him if it gets bad to go to the ER) and he thinks the ER won't be able to do anything for him...so he'll just be uncomfortable in a place that isn't home.
I say $#@!-at the very least, they can offer him pain management.
I've tried pleading, begging, crying, threatening, asking him to put himself in my shoes (and what would he do if I were in that much pain?) and now I'm at the point where I'm trying to tell him the scariest $#@! that could happen. I feel like violence is my only next option. If I crack him over the head with a cast iron frying pan, he can't really argue with me anymore. I'm sure it'd be hard to drag him out to the car, but I think I could manage. :madwife:
He's been in severe pain starting on St. Patrick's Day. The VA has been dicking him around. Today they called with the results of a CT scan indicating two 7mm kidney stones, one in his kidney and one in his ureter (I guess technically that's a ureteral stone).
My research shows that you can't p$#@! stones that big. That you either have to have it blasted with sound waves or you have to have surgery to remove it. If they do blast the stone they have to put you under light anesthesia because it's painful. It can cause bruising and the surrounding organs to become "tender". I also read that they won't try to blast them in the ureter because it can cause irreparable damage. If they do surgery and remove it from the ureter you have to get a stent so that the ureter doesn't heal to itself and helps to alleviate complications/discomfort from the swelling (caused by the surgery).
Four times now I've wanted to take him to the ER. He turns grayish green (not that pale yellowy green, $#@!ing GREEN). He gets sweaty, but he has the chills, he shakes uncontrollably, he can't get comfortable/be still, he can't stand up straight. It makes him throw up.
I can't stand to see him like that. We've had two serious fights about it-the first one I threatened to call an ambulance if he didn't let me take him in (he did, but only to a walk in clinic). He doesn't want to go to the ER because he wants to let his doctors figure it out(but they've screwed up so much already, and they told him if it gets bad to go to the ER) and he thinks the ER won't be able to do anything for him...so he'll just be uncomfortable in a place that isn't home.
I say $#@!-at the very least, they can offer him pain management.
I've tried pleading, begging, crying, threatening, asking him to put himself in my shoes (and what would he do if I were in that much pain?) and now I'm at the point where I'm trying to tell him the scariest $#@! that could happen. I feel like violence is my only next option. If I crack him over the head with a cast iron frying pan, he can't really argue with me anymore. I'm sure it'd be hard to drag him out to the car, but I think I could manage. :madwife:
Effective way to get a man to go to the ER?
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